What to Expect

Contrary to what some may assume, sex therapy is about much more than just sex. In my experience, I have found that couples who experience difficulties with sex also begin to react to sex as a threat. This is where regular couples therapy meets sex therapy. 

At first, we still explore common themes such as attachment and communication. Then, sessions can look at each partner's experiences and meaning of sex. Sometimes this may look like uncovering earlier traumas or the ways our upbringing taught us how to view sex. Other sessions also explore each partner's turn on's and turn off's aka "the engine and the brakes." 

Another important part of sex therapy are behavioral interventions. A common intervention such as Sensate Focus, helps couples ease into different stages of sexual activity. By removing the expectation of having sex, couples step into roles of just giving or just receiving pleasure on certain body parts to start. This then allows for natural desire to return or healing previous moments of discomfort/pain. 

"Regardless of what your goals may be, allowing yourself to get help is the best first step!"